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edited to remove inappropriate details. An attempt has also been made to remove
any material information that may identify persons by name or certain specific
institutions. We regret that most emails we received cannot be published due to
the large volume of correspondents. We appreciate each and every person who has
written us. We praise God that hearts are being touched by truth. When you read
these letters, please pray for those pouring out their hearts, as well for the
countless millions who need Jesus Christ and His message, and have not heard,
because no one would go and teach them…
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A SOLDIER OF THE CROSS OF CHRIST
Dear Stephen Wilcox
I have been a single parent for fourteen years. I was ordained a minister of the word of God
in 1990, and by 1993, I was astonished with the compromise of God’s Holy Word, that I witnessed in the church. Pleading to my superiors in these matters,
fell on fell on ears that refused to hear.
The cliché, “what is truth is truth and what is right is right”, meant
nothing to those who were in-charge and I was told many times, that I had a
choice in the matter. “I could stay or I
could leave”. Needless to say, I left, and left, and left. I was branded a
legalist on many occasions because my opinions (taken from scripture on
obedience to the Word) did not fit that particular ministry.
Between 1990 and 2000, I have seen homosexuality
blatantly accepted with in the church, divorce and remarriage by ministers
and pastors as well as congregants.
Pastors proclaim
their personal prophesy, in order to raise money, and many other
situations that were simply unjust and against God’s Word. My choice is to have no particular church affiliation,
but to do God’s work without the hindrance of the politics, that are…. I
founded the Divine Word Ministry, so that I could print monthly news letters
about the present apostasy in the church today, to pastors and as many people
who wished them (at no cost to them). On occasion I am asked to preach and I
do. I have preached in eight states to many people, with no compromise of the
Word of God.
I sent my son **** to ….Christian Schools, where he
received the most awesome Christian education. His understanding of the Word of
God left me in awe on many occasions. The most fascinating part about his
Christian walk, is that he lives it each day. Upon his graduation, he received the
President’s award for academics, The Distinguished Christian High School
Student Award and many, many others.
Sadly, his experience within the church was about
the same as mine. ( the apple didn’t fall far from the
tree) I was told by one of the youth
ministers, who assisted the teen ministry, that when ***** was asked questions
about scripture, by the youth leader, the entire class (which was usually very
noisy) was totally quite, as he not only gave the corrected scripture from
memory, but explained its meaning to the class on many occasions. Of course this didn’t sit well with the youth
ministry leader at all. He didn’t understand that for 5 years, 2 hours a day my
son studied Scripture,
Christian sociology, and Christian World ethics.
When the youth minister at our church, told the
teens that it was all right for them to participate in sex, because they were
young and that God understood, my son was shocked. In his hast to correct the youth leader, he
stood and said; “You can’t teach these kids that!” After class, the youth
leader called my son over and said; “You know too much, maybe you should go to
the adult class”. A few weeks later the
youth leader removed himself from his position. My son left the church. He
continues to read Scripture and continues to take notes on God’s Word. ( he has note books full of notes on scripture) We sit on
many occasions and share the Word of God, discuss church politics,
and conditions in the world today. He is
6’2”, lifts weights, goes to Christian
concerts with his friends, feeds the homeless at the Inner City Ministry each Thrusday ,
and is a Senior at ….. University. (Pre Medical)
I believe that God touched my heart in writing this
book to help, the so very many people who are compromising the Word. I wish to believe that if people were
instructed properly, many would try their best to do what is right in their
lives and the lives of others.
The book is about the compromise and the consequences,
of blatantly breaking the word of God. It speaks about the history of the
Christian church and its compromise, which caused millions upon millions of
people their lives. It speaks about the Crusades and the Inquisition, Martin
Luther’s Reformation and His views of the Jewish People which caused more death
and suffering (because of more compromise). The commandments
of God, and how they must relate to the modern man with no compromise.
Slavery in the United States (more compromise) “The destruction of the American
Christian family through divorce and remarriage and its effect on today’s
society”. Your paper would enhance this section and lead the people of God to a
better understanding. Forgiveness and acquiring salvation.
I was so very
impressed with your paper, as I didn’t know that there were many who wrote
about true obedience to the Word of God. True it has been difficult for my son
and I, because of our stance on Christian ethics. I
have lost friends and jobs, but God fulfills all of our needs. The use of your paper would be most helpful,
in my quest to spread the Word. I thank you much for writing me back and
inquiring about my book.
Sincerely yours in Christ,
Rev. (name withheld)
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FROM OLD REFORMED TO NEW REFORMER
Dear Stephen,
I recently obtained a copy of "THE RESTORATION
OF CHRISTIAN MARRIAGE, A CALL FOR REPENTANCE AND REFORMATION, BY STEPHEN WILCOX" from your web site. I read it with great interest, and I am in
complete agreement with what the *Word of God* has to say on the issue of
remarriage. Fortunately, your article
reflects the right view, as laid out in scripture, flawlessly!
I write to you because this is a subject very near
and dear to my heart. I believe that
remarriage is a plague sent upon the church by the enemy of light, and it is
destroying the family quicker than a cancer.
Because I have been attending a reformed church -
(that is; we hold to the teachings of the early church reformers), your article
is especially useful and informative to me.
Sadly, years before my family began attending the
church we are at, the Pastor's wife left him for another man in the church.
Pastor has managed to remain divorced, while raising
his daughter, from infant through college - alone. That was a quality which attracted my wife
and I to the small community church in the first
place. However, all of that changed when
the Pastor made an announcement last Sunday - He informed the congregation that
he is getting remarried this October.
Unfortunately, I cannot sit under such
teaching. As in the books of Timothy and
Titus, he will be disqualified as a Pastor the minute he says "I do".
This will mark the 4th church my family has attended, and left, in the past few
years - all over the issue of remarriage.
You may find it severe to leave a church over this one issue, but I am
raising 3 children, all in their teens now, and I want them to have a right
view of marriage – before they enter into it.
Unfortunately, when a church doesn't share my views on this subject, it
is toxic to my children's chances of sustaining a healthy marriage
relationship.
Quite frankly, I don't know where to go next. There aren't any churches that I know of in
my area which are free from this plague - even at the highest levels. I can readily count several remarried Pastors
that I know of - easily more than a half dozen of them.
That is a little of my background, and how I came to
seek out your article during a web search.
I would like your permission to distribute a printed copy to the few
folks who may want to know our reasons for leaving the church. I do not seek to cause any divisions, but at
the same time, I also believe that people deserve an honest answer.
Your article does a very good job explaining how far
off target the church has gotten since the times of the early church fathers - in a
format that is geared towards those who hold near and dear the views of the
early church reformers.
In addition, I have painstakingly converted your
(short version) writing into Palm Pilot format, so that I can read it on my
Palm handheld device. I have attached a
copy of that file to this mailnote, in case you wish
to postit to your web site for any other Palm users
to take advantage of.
Thank you for daring to take a right stand on this
issue. I know a little of the sacrifice
it takes, as I bounce my family from church to church, in search of one that
will uphold the truth. This is one area
that even the most God-fearing churches refuse to follow the Bible on.
Blessings in Christ,
R (name withheld)
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BETRAYED BY CHURCH AND PASTOR
Dear Mr. Wilcox,
I just finished reading your article on The
Restoration of Christian Marriage. And I
just wanted to thank you, for confirming what the Lord has been revealing to
me.
My husband (ex-husband) and I are both
Christians. He filed for divorced and
left in February. We had been married 7
years and have 2 small children. I had
had an affair the first year of our marriage, but he claimed to have forgiven
me. When things got tough for us
(illness, other sin, etc) he filed for divorce and left. He went to our pastor, told him of the affair
6 years ago, and basically got his blessing for the divorce.
Our pastor never even contacted me or tried to
discuss this with us together at all. I
have been devastated and angry at how this was handled in our church. I’m not
angry anymore as much as I am saddened.
I just can’t seem to get past that if our pastor had handled this in a
biblical way, I probably wouldn’t be divorced right now.
It is a tough realization that I must remain single
and cannot remarry. But God’s way isn’t
always easy or understandable I guess.
Besides having 2 small children to raise on my
own, and having to work full time, I also have Multiple Sclerosis. It isn’t easy for me to understand how God
expects me to do this on my own I guess.
But what He calls me to do (and I now truly believe that it would be
wrong for me to remarry) He will give me the strength to do. And I continue to pray earnestly for the
restoration of my marriage.
Sorry to have made this so long. I just wanted to thank you for the article
and I hope it can be passed on to ALL pastors who will then seek God in this
area and give Godly counsel to others in our situation.
I’ve considered passing it on to the pastor of the
church who gave his blessing for our divorce.
But I’m not sure if that is wise or not.
I’m trying to trust God for the restoration and trying not to get in His
way. But I do thank you again. I have
learned a lot and hope to be able to teach others also.
God Bless,
DL (Name withheld)
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CONCERNING DOUBLEMINDEDNESS, APATHY AND WOLVES
Dear
Mr. Wilcox,
My
name is (name withheld)
Time
and space limit giving full account of our experience of divorce and remarriage
in the church. In summation I have to say double mindedness, apathy and wolves
in sheep's clothes abound. The destruction of His kingdom has crept in so
stealthily... the ways of man have become the norm, acceptable and encouraged
by the "Christian community".
It
grieves me greatly... yet only a grain of sand, I am sure, compared to our Holy
Father and precious Lord Jesus.
The
consequences have been personally devastating. In seeking assistance and
"Godly" counsel by our church, and "Christian"
professionals for our marital crisis... My beloved husband... was rather
encouraged to walk away from our precious Lord and did divorce me last month.
I
rend my heart for my own beloved and for every other precious and holy union
that has been betrayed, misled and shredded by worldly thinking.
I
thank God for the revelation of HIS truth and stand in obedience to HIS word, I live in hope and prayer for HIS promise of
restoration and blessings.
I
look forward to the miracle of healing and restoration by HIS mighty and
glorious hand.
The
Lord has laid upon my spirit such a desire for this ministry... prior to being
divorced... that the spiritual battle is quite plain before me. Satan is
defeated... he shall not win... My GOD is a GREAT GOD and HE will not give HIS
GLORY to another, nor let HIS servant be ashamed.
Stand
Firm... Mr. Wilcox in truth... Forge on... for the Lord goes before you into
the battle.
God
bless and keep you and yours,
In
Christ,
HS
(Name withheld)
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SPIRIT LEAPS FOR JOY
May
HE bless you abundantly for your stand in TRUTH.
I
just found your sight.... I have been awaiting the reconcilliation
by the
goodness and grace of
God for a while.
Everything
in your writing is just as revealed to me in the word... in my
own
study and meditations.
My
Spirits leaps with Joy to find ONE other who demonstrates a great concern for
the crumbling of the foundation of God's kingdom. How dreadful the holiness of
marriage has been smattered in the Christian community.
In Christ... God keep you and yours... faithful servant.
(Name
withheld)
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MISERABLE
I
just found your website. I am divorced
and remarried and miserable.
Miserable
because I feel my new marriage is not valid and I'm trapped.
I
became a Christian long before I married my first wife. I foolishly committed adultery several times
during my first marriage. My first wife
did not want a divorce, but eventually filed to protect herself. She was willing to
reconcile. I foolishly refused to repent and did not fight the divorce.
I
then foolishly married my adultery partner.
She is also a Christian. She
divorced her first husband after a string of adulteries. He did not want the
divorce
and was willing to reconcile.
I
know my problem, for some time now, has been willful disobedience. I have sought and received forgiveness from
all who I sinned against, especially my first wife. She is not remarried or seeing anyone. I can't seem to get past what I did and feel
drawn to my first wife. I feel as though
I cannot completely repent as long as I'm married to my current wife.
My
current wife feels our marriage made everything right. She thinks we should stay married and work it
out. I know I'm forgiven, but I'm miserable.
Is there any hope of restoration in this life? Should I divorce again and try to win back my
first wife?
I've
been a real prodigal and I'm ready to do things God's way. Seems no matter what I do at this point someone else gets hurt.
Help!
Please pray for me! Any
suggestions/advice?
In
Christ,
J
(Name withheld)
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CHURCH ENCOURAGING UNFAITHFULNESS
I
read your essay about divorce and remarriage and found it to be
a
very helpful contrast to the popular ideas on this subject. I
am
currently struggling with this situation.
My wife left 19
months
ago and filed for, and received, a civil divorce. One of
the
things that really stood out in your article was the way that
scripture has been twisted by a lot of people to seemingly allow
divorce
and remarriage.
My
wife started attending Divorce Care
meetings within a month of leaving our home.
It seems that
somewhere in the course is the idea that the "exception clause"
for
divorce can be further expanded to include just about any kind
of
misdeed that a spouse might commit.
It
is a very lonely and painful road to follow.
Almost everyone
tells
me to just get on with my life. That I
am justified in
seeking
a new relationship because she left me.
Even men who are
elders
in the church. My wife's father, who is an elder, seems
content
to just let things go the way they are.
It doesn't seem
that
he has any interest in trying to precipitate change.
I
guess one thing that I didn't mention is that we have a
daughter. She was 20 months old when my
wife left. She is now
starting to question what has happened.
She asks me if I can come
live
with her at her new house.
I
struggle daily to not just close my heart to my wife, to stay
open
to the possibility of reconciliation, but it seems so
hopeless. I know that all things are
possible through God and
that
there is no way for us to understand His plans or what He has
in
store for us.
Thanks,
M
(Name withheld)
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DOCTRINES OF DEMONS
I am
glad to have found your site. A friend of mine and myself
(who are both standing for the restoration of our marriages to unbelievers who
have or are committing adultery) were searching for answers on remarriage. We
felt it was not an option for believers especially; but wholly not for anyone.
Your site is so helpful and informative.
I
have even had a minister say to me that "this is not the man for you. God
has someone else for you and your child. This man is unrepentant and will never
change." He told me that I needed to leave my marriage. I questioned how
one saved by grace could say that someone else is doomed and
unrepentant...anyway, thank you for your information and research.
I
wish more churches and Pastors would stand up and say "what thus says the
Lord" concerning marriage. And stop performing 2nd marriages and things
like that. I wish. One day...
Please
keep my husband and myself in your prayers.
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(Name Withheld)
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LET THE WALLS FALL DOWN
I
just wanted to send you a quick note to let you know that God is doing great
things through you. I read your site,
just in time. Satan had taken a hold of
my mind in letting me think that my unhappiness in my marriage was a product of
marrying the wrong person, when in fact it was just because I wasn't working
hard enough at it. I think that I was
just feeling a bit discouraged.
Reading
your webpage was a great eye opener. Very humbling. Which was what I needed to break down my stubborn walls. I learned a great deal and wanted to say
Thank You. I feel the Grace of God ready
to work in me, and you helped me to hear what God wanted me to hear all along.
God
Bless,
M
(Name Withheld)
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HEART WRENCHING DECISION TO FOLLOW CHRIST’S COMMANDS
Dear
Mr. Wilcox,
I
came across your website about The Restoration of Christian Marriage
tonight. I was unwillingly divorced 13
years ago and have for most of that time held to the position of no divorce and
no remarriage, but I just couldn't really explain why. Unfortunately my wife married the man she had
been having an affair with 12 years ago, but divorced him also last fall.
Within
the past 6 months I had changed my position on divorce/remarriage, but have
struggled with it. Also unfortunate is
the fact that I met a wonderful Christian woman, whose husband left her ten
years ago for another man and has been living in homosexuality ever since. (They were divorced about 9 years ago). We met via the internet about 6 months ago,
but have never met in person. However, we have grown quite
close and I was planning to make a visit to meet her next month.
Within
the past 2 weeks the Lord has been convicting me and showing me what He really
says about divorce and remarriage, and by the way, it is exactly what you have
posted on your website. So I thank you
for having the courage to post that in spite of the fact that even most
Christians and churches will disagree with you.
I have
now severed my ties with the woman I told you about, but it has been a
heart-wrenching decision, since she of course does not see it the way I now
do….
Again,
I thank you for putting the truth out there like you have. God bless you!
Sincerely
in Christ,
GD (Name Withheld)
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REPENTING OF ADULTERY AND FINDING JESUS
Hi,
thank you for the get essay. My wife
just filed for legal separation, due to numerous infidelities on my part. I want to reconcile with her, but more
importantly, to repent of my sins and be forgiven by God.
Can
you tell me what (if any) scriptures (old or new testament) give clear
direction on exactly what I need to do to repent and be forgiven of marital
unfaithfulness?
Thank
you and Grace of God be with you.
CF
(Name Withheld)
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hi
my name is (Name Withheld) and I have recently become Christian. Since then my ex-girlfriend
and I had begun talking again and have become engaged. I read your website and
it has really convicted me despite my trying to ignore it.
My
ex is divorced because her husband committed adultery she was Christian at the
time and did it in faith, sought council before hand. I have come to the
conclusion that there is no remarriage as your website and the Bible declares. Do
feel that would be forgiveness or any way to move on from this situation since
she did it in ignorance? As the Bible says that all things become new, the old
is passed away.
I am
looking for the truth not to justify my actions, I
just want to rule out every possibility before break the engagement with the
woman I love. Thanx for doing God's work,
God
Bless
(Name
Withheld)
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SURPRISED BY OVERWHELMING PEACE
Greetings
Stephen:
Tonight
I will be brief. Perhaps in the future I
will write more when I am
more
alert.
I
have not read your entire article on Christian marriage but I am excited
about
what I have read so far.
I
have been divorced for nine years.
Recently, a friend who doesn't claim to
be
a Christian but reads the Bible a lot and is searching for truth, challenged my
views on divorce and remarriage. I could
not honestly defend them in the face of his questions straight from the Bible.
I am
so grateful to you for bringing to light the teachings of the early
church
fathers. I am not a Greek scholar but I
do what I can to go back to
the
original language via a concordance. I
was surprised by an overwhelming peace when I looked at the scriptures only and
set aside man's interpretations.
As I
did this I by faith closed the gate a bit, so to speak, in this area. I say
this because I am beginning to see the that Church is
all too eager to push open the narrow gate a bit when it appears to us to be
just TOO narrow. So, as I examined both
sides of the issue it became clear that God was leading me to a narrow place
and not too many other people are there.
I feel as though I've just awakened from a long dream that blinded
me. An old Phil Keaggy
song, "Love Broke Through" keeps coming to mind.
I am
looking forward to a more thorough investigation your article. It has
brought
me great hope and comfort. I am hungry
for Truth in this area and it appears you have provided much valid
insight. Thank you. Can you imagine how long this email would
have been if I wasn't attempting to keep it brief?
Blessings
on you my friend,
KK
(Name Withheld)
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FORGIVENESS AND RESTORATION AFTER 22 YEARS OF STANDING ALONE
Hello,
I
have just read your very long message on divorce and remarriage. I have an interesting situation that I
request your thoughts on.
25
years ago I got married to (Name Withheld).
We were together only 3 years before he wanted a divorce. We received counseling from our
pastor.....unfortunately the pastor himself was seeking a divorce and (I felt)
could not be objective. I held out, but
to no avail.
Not
long after our divorce he remarried....to the woman who was the attraction when
he left our marriage. I have never
remarried.
Over
the last 22 years we've remainded in contact and
have, periodically, had many extremely meaningful conversations.....those of repentence and forgiveness and depth.
About
two and a half years ago ****** contacted me again. He and his wife had been seperated
for almost a year and she was proceeding with divorce. I thought I heard God
speaking very clearly to me about a future with *****, but I didn't share that
with him. We agreed to not be in
contact, as ***** was needing to get through so
much...and kept that commitment except when my father (to whom ***** was very
close) died. 6 months later we started
some conversations that were wonderful for both of us. We allowed ourselves to dream a bit about
having a future together.
Those
conversations were very deep for four or five months, but he wanted to back-off
(15 months ago) in order to get his relationship with God straight, and live
the correct priorities, and to not be influenced by his desires for a future
with me until his divorce was final, which was 10 months ago. Now he says he's
been reading the Word about remarriage and says that our relationship can't go
in the direction it was. I don't know if he means now or forever....we haven't
talked in detail yet.
Anyway.....?? I'm the woman he left. His 2nd ex is getting remarried in a couple
of months. What exactly do you think God
would say about he and I remarrying?
Thank
you,
K
(Name Withheld)
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HEART TURNED TO REPENTANCE AND RECEIVING A NEW MIND IN CHRIST
Thank
you for your passion for educating Christians about God's Word in regard to
marriage, divorce, and remarriage. I
find myself in the circumstance of needing this information.
My
husband and I married at age 19, 19 years ago.
Four years ago, I found out that he had an eight month long affair with
one of my "friends". I chose
to stay in my marriage because I did not want to be the kind of person, the
kind of Christian that had a hard-heart and could not or would not
forgive. I have been forgiven much,
should not I forgive others? My husband
was quite repentant and took whatever steps he could to restore the
marriage. About 8 months ago, he
informed me that he no longer loved me, was in love with some one else (my best
friend), but that the two of them decided it was wrong to leave me for her. I was devastated and suffered a quite serious
depression.
I am
seeing a Christian counselor who frequently reminds me about spiritual battle
and Satan's plans for destroying my marriage.
My husband has chosen to stay married to me, but has emotionally left
and has put in several requests for changes to be made in the marriage. (Some needful and others selfish) I often feel like just following the way of
the world and simply leaving. My counselor
helps me keep my focus on God and His Word.
I
found myself seriously contemplating divorce again. My mind justifies this well. After all, he committed adultery once, and a second time in his heart. The scriptures permit me to leave. I'm not interested in remarriage anyway. So then I can be out from under this terrible
pain. I was going to look up scriptures
again, but instead looked online. I
found this website through a search engine.
It was wonderful to have all of the scriptures here in one place. The additional information of the teachings
of the early church fathers was helpful as well.
Because
of what I read here today, I will turn my heart in repentance to God once again
and ask Him to "renew my mind"; to not let God's work go because of
my own personal sadness. (which is what I have
done) I know in my heart and the Spirit
bears witness to me that these things are true.
Just because the world has changed does not mean Christ has changed.
I
will bookmark this page to reference again when needed and to refer others to
when necessary. I will also send the
address to my counselor so he can refer others to it.
Thank you and may
God continue to bless you in your life and in your ministry.
DP
(Name Withheld)
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CALLING FOR RETURN OF BELOVED PRODICAL
Please
be in prayer for me as my husband left me and our 3 year old
daughter Easter Sunday. I have not gave
up on him and still would like to
make
us a family but he is not willing to do
this. He says that he wants
a
divorce(but as far as I know he has not filed yet). He is living with a
buddy
and I am not sure if there is a female or not in his life yet.(He
says
no; that he missed up once and that he would not do that again).
Our 3
year old daughter having a real tough time with this because she is
daddy's
little girl. Also he doesn't call her
like he should and he has
only
seen her once in the last 2 weeks. He
was supposed to pick-up her
Saturday
but I would not let him take her anywhere because he has offered
no finacial support to me or her since he left, so needless to
say he just
didn't
come.
I
pray constantly for God to help me deal will this and to
give
me the strength to cope and deal and to also help my husband to find
his
way home and back to his family that loves him so much. Please pray
for
the restoration of my family.
G(Name
Withheld)
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THE GOSPEL’S WORST ENEMY
I just quickly looked over your web
site. You have done a lot of research
and have recorded what the Holy Ghost has shown me regarding the permanency of
a one-flesh marriage - that marriage between a male and female, neither having
a living spouse cannot be dissolved other than by the physical death of one of
the parties to that one-flesh union.
The church has, in large part, become
the gospel's worst enemy when it comes to the marriage/divorce issue as you
well state in your writings.
JB
(Name Withheld)
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UKRAINIAN BAPTISTS
Greetings
of love of our Lord Jesus Christ to you!
I am
inquiring into the question of divorce and remarriage. I live in the
In
my inquiring I've stopped on Mattew 5:32 and 19:9. I
cannot bring these passages in agreement with the rest of the teaching. No
matter what version of explanations of those passages I take, I always come up
with a contradiction. I read your work, but didn't quite understand your
position on this matter, so I would like to ask some qualifying questions.
I
understood that you believe that there Jesus was speaking about the Jewish
betrothal custom. About breaking of chastity before the
marriage that was discovered afterwards.
If
possible, please write about it in as more detail as possible. Is it the
breaking of chastity that was discovered during the betrothal or after the
marriage? May anyone marry another person after breaking the betrothal
relationship? Was it only for the Jews or also for us today?
May
the Lord bless you and your ministry.
With
love,
brother
AP (Name Withheld)
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ANOTHER BROKEN PASTOR’S HOME
these
issues. I am a seminary graduate and licensed
preacher in a conservative Reformed denomination. I
was
abandoned by my wife last year. She stated
outright that she could not be married to a minister.
I
was willing to give up my ministry plans, but she
left
and divorced me (without biblical grounds)
anyway.
She is being disciplined by the church for
this,
but has basically thumbed her nose at the people
of
God.
I
pray for ********* salvation every day. I question
whether
or not she really knew the Lord. Her dad is a
LIBERAL *************** minister. I really don't know
what
Bible he is reading to justify what she has done.
I
have trouble believing he really knows the Lord
either.
I
struggle with anger. Please pray for me about this.
********
is basically hiding from every Christian that
knew
her before, and has befriended unbelievers. She
has
moved several times so that no one, including
myself,
knows where she is. I have truly been
abandoned, and it is like she is dead.
That's
why I struggle with these issues. I grew up in
a
fundamental Bible church being taught that a second
marriage is never permissible after a divorce. The
Westminster
Confession, I believe,
teaches a concept
of
"covenantal death," where the offending party is
considered dead covenantally. I'm not sure I agree